I first wrote about the lessons my beloved Border Collie Sharnie had taught me a few years ago and just recently AWeber Communications, the firm that handles my email newsletter, added a few more. Here’s what I wrote originally…
A Lesson from Sharnie!
Most probably you haven’t met Sharnie but I’ll bet you’ve met another like her! Let me explain.
Sharnie is my much-loved tri-coloured Border Collie dog. She came to me as a birthday gift from my wife designed to stop me selling the family home and moving into a city unit. From the moment she arrived, Sharnie knew exactly what she had to do… suck up to me unquestioningly and unsparingly. Obviously sucking up that way is a great technique because Sharnie has won her way into my heart and there’s no way I could sacrifice her for the joys of city living.
But there is another reason I couldn’t get rid of her either and that’s because of the lessons this extremely intelligent dog teaches me. Here are just some of them and they, no doubt, will be as relevant to you as they are to me:
1. Always anticipate the best- Sharnie and I go for a run every morning and the joy of that is heightened for her because I kick or throw a tennis ball for her to chase as we run. Generally I supply the tennis ball but, on occasions, I don’t take it or it disappears down the mouth of a drain. Does the absence or loss of the tennis ball worry Sharnie? Only momentarily. And why only momentarily? Because Sharnie expects to find another one and just runs along with that expectation… and guess what? She finds another one! No problems, no fuss. Why? Because she expected to… she gets what she expects.
And it’s just as true for us humans— we get what we expect. If we expect the worst we get the worst; if we expect the best we get the best. The only uncertainty is how long it will take before expectations become reality… sometimes it’s only a moment, other times it’s almost forever. But it does happen.
So learn from Sharnie. Expect the good things and they will surely come to you.
2. Persistence works- In our backyard we have a pool and Sharnie likes nothing more than to have a ball thrown into the pool and waits patiently for it to float to the edge where she can pluck it out, dump it at your feet and wait for you to throw it in the pool again. Now this game doesn’t appeal to some people who visit us and tries the patience of others so that either they don’t start throwing the ball or they rapidly tire of doing so. Does this deter Sharnie? No, she knows the power of persistence! She simply drops the ball at your feet and keeps on doing it until you pick the ball up and throw it. Guess what… it works. I think it was Calvin Coolidge who said that persistence is omnipotent, meaning that persistence is all-powerful, and that’s true for you and me. Nothing succeeds like persistence. Too often we give up after a couple of failures and never achieve our goal.
Learn from Sharnie… persist!
3. Every day is a new day- When I get out of bed every morning, my first mission, after the bathroom visit of course, is to let Sharnie in and, no matter what my state of mind, Sharnie lets me know that it’s a brand new day and that everything starts all over. Even if she had been scolded the day before, she’s forgotten about it. Even if I didn’t lavish affection on her the previous night, she’s forgotten about it. Even if I forgot to feed her, she’s forgotten about it. You see she forgets all of the trials, troubles and tribulations of previous times and lives for the moment. She knows that the dawn of a new day erases the mistakes and problems of the past.
Learn from Sharnie, when you treat every day as a brand new day and you don’t carry the baggage forward— every day is a great day.
4. If you are happy let the people know- Sharnie’s tail wags incessantly and she always seems to have a big cheerful grin on that face of hers letting me know that she’s having a great time. You can tell from every fibre of her being that she’s happy and she wants the world and me to know it. Yet, when we go running in the morning, we meet so many people who respond to my cheerful “hello” with a grunt at best and nothing at worst. I always tell Sharnie that they are probably not going to have the best of days because they are not all that happy or least ways they’re not showing it. If you are happy you should let people know. Happiness is like manure— it works best when you spread it around.
Learn from Sharnie, try spreading your happiness around and see how much comes back to you.
It’s often said that the world is “going to the dogs” and that’s generally meant disparagingly. However, when you look at how Sharnie views life, going to the dogs can mean you get a whole lot more out of life.
Why not try going to the dogs or doing what dogs do on a regular basis? It’ll change your life!
Now, as I said, AWeber added a few more great thoughts and they are…
5. Be respectful
6. Help each other out
7. Take baby steps
8. Earn their trust
9. Celebrate holidays together
10. Avoid Being Overenthusiastic
11. Cheer Them Up
12. Think outside the box
You can read them in detail here
Sharnie saved you from a fate worse than hell. We lived in a ‘luxury’ inner city apartment for two years. You won’t get me back into Melbourne Madness. Not recommended!
I’m pleased Darren and I’ll let the lovely Sharnie know although I will have to shout since she’s stone deaf my Vet tells me. He also said that a Border Collie generally lives to about 12 years and she’s gone 13 so we are letting her be the grand old dementic lady… and live out life comfortably. I’m sure that I would have hated the unit (don’t tell Lauris!) so thanks for your confirmation of Sharnie’s great work.
Well said, Winno.
“I have been observing the traits and dispositions of the so called lower animals and find my self humiliated.”
was how Mark Twain put it.
Now, Winston, you’re not one of these people who leave their dog alone outside all day and night except for walks are you? Very hard on a dog, that.
No Lynn! There is no way I could leave my dogs outside. They have the run of the house and office during the day and then have their own room for a good night’s sleep. I hate having to do the travel I do when I have to leave my bewdiful dogs. On holidays I look for dog places that are human friendly! Mark Twain was right.